Mother love shapes cultures and individuals. While most mothers know that their love and emotional availability are vital to their children’s well-being, many of us do not understand the profound and long-lasting impact we have in developing our young children’s brains, teaching them first lessons of love, shaping their consciences — all this at a time when society urges women to seek their worth and personal fulfillment in things that take them away from their families and intimate bonds.

A child is deeply affected by the relationship they have with their mother and one powerful gift you can give to your children is emotional health. “The Mom I Want to Be,” by T. Suzanne Elder, is a book designed to help one rise above your past and give your children a great future.

A child should NEVER feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love. A mother’s love needs to be given unconditionally to establish a firm trust foundation for the emotional well-being of the child. If a child does not have a positive emotional environment within, they will use their lifetime searching unless peace comes from within to settle their past. Values of the home and mother’s love are essential.

Studies have shown the impact of mother’s love on the development of a child’s brain. Neurologists show evidence that the way children are treated in the early years is important not only for the child’s emotional development, but also in determining the brain size. The brain size is caused by the difference in the way each child is treated by their mothers.

Evidence suggests the larger size brain links to children who will be more intelligent and develop good social ability. In comparison, those with a smaller brain are more likely be addicted to drugs, be unemployed, involved in violent crime and depend on government benefits in the future.

In the first two years of life, babies rely on a strong bond with their mothers for healthy brain development. Eighty% of brain cells grow for the first two years of life. Problems in development can affect people for the rest of your lives.

Researchers have found that:

  • Mother’s love can help children’s brains grow twice the rate as neglected youngsters.
  • Support from mothers before school is very important.
  • There is a sensitive period when the brain responds more to maternal support.
  • Parent-child relationships are vital during preschool year.
  • The brain is affected more by experiences very early in life.
  • Mothers who were more supportive than average caused increases in growth of the child’s hippocampus — the part of the brain essential to learning, memory and response to stress — that were more than two times greater than those who were below average on the nurturing scale.

Motherhood is all about influence. One has a great opportunity to influence the next generation by what we do as a mother each and every day.

One can never underestimate the power of mother’s love and the value of a supportive, stable home life.

Early years are learning years. Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers, mothers to be, new mothers, adoptive mothers, foster mothers, stepmothers and all those one calls “Mother.”

References:

  • “The Power of a Mother’s Love,” Jill Savage-2007, Dr. Brenda Hunter
  • “How a Mother’s Love Changes a Child’s Brain,” Joseph Castro, 2012
  • “A Mother’s Love Increases Brain Development,” Lynn Griffith, 2014
  • “Motherly love helps children’s brains grow bigger, scientists find,” Sarah Knapton, 2016

Happy National Teacher Day to all teachers, May 3, 2022.

Great Reads

  • “My Mom is Magical,” by Sabrina Moyle, Baby-3 years. Board book devoted to magical mothers. Is your mom more amazing than a billion butterflies?
  • “Grandma Loves Me,” by Marianne Richmond, Baby-2 years. Bring to life all the ways grandmothers show their love for their grandchildren.
  • “I Love Mom with The Very Hungry Caterpillar,” by Eric Carle, 2017, 3-5 years. Enjoy Mother’s Day with fun pictures of honoring Mom on her day with the Very Hungry Caterpillar.

Read aloud for 15 minutes — every child, every parent, every day. Plant the seeds that will sprout into language.